Why is Pregnancy Such a Bad Thing?

I am currently nine months pregnant. OK, pregnancy is difficult, but I love it! I can hardly wait to see my baby. The problem I am having however is that my joy and excitement is often quelled by the dirty looks I receive from people. Yesterday my husband was taking me for a walk, trying to get my labor moving and an older couple drive by us, I go to smile and the woman looks at me like I am filthy. This happens each time I am out in public.

I am in the best relationship of my life, married to the man of my dreams and at the end of a planned pregnancy. When I told people I was pregnant, even my family they said “Are you happy about it? I didn’t know if I should say congratulations or not.” What! It is a planned pregnancy, and even if it was not planned, it’s a baby what is not to be happy about? I think congratulations should always be in order. This pregnancy was a second attempt after a very disappointing miscarriage so it is an especially happy time for us.

The funny thing is, I am in my mid thirties, over the moon happy about the pending birth of my child and I get treated like a teenage unwed mother. Even if I were a teenage unwed mother, why look at a woman like she is dirty for bringing a child into this world? Babies are innocent and pregnancy is a beautiful thing. Of course in a perfect world teenagers would abstain from sex, but we all know our world isn’t perfect.  Why would anyone want to place undue stress on a pregnant woman when it’s after the fact anyway?

One in Four US Teens has an STD

I know this site is about babies, but I cannot help but comment on the recent study that found one in four US teens has already been infected with an std. How gross!

There is much talk about how we need better sex education in schools, to teach children to use condoms when having sex to help this problem. Personally, I don’t want my child to learn about sex education at school. I want to teach my daughter myself. I will tell her things the school won’t. She has sex ed at school, but the education does not stop there!

I teach her things such as:

• You can still get an std even with a condom - especially herpes
• The only way to be 100% sure not to get pregnant or an std is to abstain from all types of sex
• Condoms have an expiration date, if you use an expired condom you can still get pregnant and or an std (I got pregnant because of an expired condom)
• You’re nobody’s b*tch so don’t let a boy talk you into his bed to throw you away later
• Not everybody is doing it
• There are other types of activities to do to stay busy instead of sexual activities…

Those are just a few things I would and do say. For those of us with babies, thankfully we don’t have to deal with that just yet with all of our children, but by the time we do the numbers will be higher for teens with sexually transmitted diseases and the children will probably become sexually active at a younger age.

I think the best way to protect your children is to not allow them to sleep over at anyone’s house. My daughter is 15 and she is not allowed to sleep over at a friends house, and no friends are allowed to sleep over at our house. A boy sleeping over would NEVER EVER be considered, unlike most of the other kids at school.

My daughter has had two boyfriends so far, and they both broke up with her because she wasn’t allowed to be with them 24/7, without parental supervision, and she wasn’t able to put out because her “parents are too strict”. After the boys broke up with her she told me the same thing both times, “they just wanted one thing”. Now she doesn’t want to have a boyfriend at all, just friends. They boys didn’t get what they wanted so they moved on to girls who would give it to them. You know the group, that one from the group of four. I point out to her that her friends with boyfriends and girlfriends are “boring” because they are busy trying to be adults playing house like they are married instead of enjoying their friends.

I’m not saying I am a perfect parent because I’m not, I am just offering alternatives to my child becoming sexually active and getting a disease.

Deanna

Circumcision

This post is going to be extremely personal, but I feel it needs to be written.

I am completely against circumcision. I do not want my baby to be taken away from me within his first minutes of life, have his penis mutilated, and have pain inflicted on him. Welcome to the cold cruel world!

I understand that circumcision is a Jewish tradition.

I do not wish to insult anyone. I do however refrain from pork, shellfish, and do not mix any meat with milk. I fully respect my Jewish brothers and sisters, but I do not feel God intended our sons genitals to be mutilated.

Circumcision in the US was done to discourage masturbation and desensitize the penis.

I know some people in this country think that an uncircumcised penis is “ugly”. I find it to be the other way around. I don’t think a circumcised penis is ugly so much as I find it odd. Sexually, an uncircumcised penis creates less friction and is much more sensitive. I know it’s not right to go out and “test” the two types of penises to see which truly is better, so I would suggest doing some research on the Internet.

Here are some sites on circumcision to get you started:
http://www.jewsagainstcircumcision.org/
http://mothersagainstcirc.org/

There is no extra care for the uncircumcised member, it keeps itself clean, and it is a myth that your son will be more prone to disease. He will be perfect just as God intended him to be.

Whatever you choose for your son is ultimately your choice, but give him the benefit of some research and keep an open mind.

My son will be just like his father, intact. I’m sure his future wife will thank me for it just as I feel thankful to my mother-in-law for the gift she has given us.

Foods and your body, yours and your familiy’s

I received this e-mail today, and thought it was just too good not to post.

 

You are what you eat, so eat well. A stupendous insight of civilizations past has now been confirmed by today’s investigative, nutritional sciences. They have shown that what was once called ‘The Doctr ine of Signatures’ was astoundingly correct. It now contends that every whole food has a pattern that resembles a body organ or physiological function and that this pattern acts as a signal or sign as to the benefit the food provides the eater. Here is just a short list of examples of Whole Food Signatures.

A sliced Carrot looks like the human eye. The pupil, iris and radiating lines look just like the human eye…and science shows that carrots greatly enhance blood flow to and function of the eyes

A Tomato has four chambers and is red. The heart is red and has four chambers. All of the research shows tomatoes are indeed pure heart and blood food.

Grapes hang in a cluster that has the shape of the heart. Each grape looks like a blood cell and all of the research today shows that grapes are also profound heart and blood vitalizing food.

A Walnut looks like a little brain, a left and right hemisphere, upper cerebrums and lower cerebellums. Even the wrinkles or folds are on the nut just like the neo-cortex. We now know that walnuts help develop over 3 dozen neuron-transmitters for brain function.

Kidney Beans actually heal and help maintain kidney function and yes, they look exactly like the human kidneys.

Celery, Bok Choy, Rhubarb and more look just like bones. These foods specifically target bone strength. Bones are 23% sodium and these foods are 23% sodium. If you don’t have enough sodium in your diet the body pulls it from the bones, making them weak. These foods replenish the skeletal needs of the body.

Eggplant, Avocadoes and Pears target the health and function of the womb and cervix of the female - they look just like these organs. Today’s research shows that when a woman eats 1 avocado a week, it balances hormones, sheds unwanted birth weight and prevents cervical cancers. And how profound is this? … It takes exactly 9 months to grow an avocado from blossom to ripened fruit. There are over 14,000 photolytic chemical constituents of nutrition in each one of these foods (modern science has only studied and named about 141 of them).

Figs are full of seeds and hang in twos when they grow. Figs increase the motility of male sperm and increase the numbers of sperm as well to overcome male sterility.

Sweet Potatoes look like the pancreas and actually balance the glycemic index of diabetics.

Olives assist the health and function of the ovaries.

Grapefruits, Oranges, and other citrus fruits look just like the mammary glands of the female and actually assist the health of the breasts and the movement of lymph in and out of the breasts.

Onions look like body cells. Today’s research shows that onions help clear waste materials from all of the body cells They even produce tears which wash the epithelial layers of the eyes.

The news isn’t that fruits and vegetables are good for you, it’s that they are so good for you, they can save your life .

 

Jennifer Lopez a Mommy Today?

Rumor has it that Jennifer Lopez may be delivering her twins in Long Island, NY today. Considering how long it took her and husband Marc Anthony to announce their pregnancy, we may be in for a long wait as to confirmation for the validity of this rumor!

UPDATE!

Friday February 22 just after midnight Jennifer Lopez gave birth to her twins. Her baby  girl arrived first, weighing 5 pounds, 7 ounces.  Her baby boy arrived 15 minutes later weighing 6 pounds.  Now I can’t wait to find out the names she gave them!

Rickie Lake On Larry King Live

Rickie Lake will be speaking about her new documentary, The Business of Being Born tonight on Larry King Live.  Tune into CNN to check it out.

Vaccinations And Your Child

I was speaking with my midwife one day about HPV, and we got on the subject of the Vaccination Gardasil. I told her that I felt it was in vain because Gardasil only protected the girls from a few of the many types of the virus. My midwife agreed and then she went on to tell me about young healthy girls who had died the day after receiving the injection. .

About ten years ago, I met this woman in the health food store. She was holding her son, whom seemed to old to be held. The way she was talking to him was confusing to me. She must have seen the puzzled look on my face, and went on to explain, “My son is autistic”.

She was really quite personable, so I started asking questions. She went on to say his type of autism was brought on by his immunizations. This stuck in my head, and each time I see something on vaccinations, I like to find out all the facts.

I am not a doctor, but I do like to educate myself. HERE is a link to an article by Dr. Mercola on the Hepatitus B Vaccination.

A very enlightening article with more information is by Alex Loglia on “THE HOUR OF THE TIME” which you can read by clicking HERE.

Whatever a parent decides is his or her choice. It is best to make an informed choice, by checking out different sources. I don’t want anyone to put anything into my child if I don’t know exactly what it is, and what are the possible side effects.

Underarm Sensitivity From Deodorant While Pregnant

Being pregnant, I am subject to all kinds of new sensitivities. I have been meaning to get away from commercial deodorants because of the aluminum they contain. It was something I was feeling guilty about using even before I became pregnant.

I tried the deodorant stone, and other natural deodorants on the market. I even tried a deodorant from Lush.  They worked about three days until my body built up an immunity to them.  I don’t mind perspiration, I just don’t want to have an odor. The funny thing is, I don’t eat meat or really any animal products. No refined to minimal refined sugar and I still have an odor. Being pregnant with those raging hormones the odor was worse than ever. I was showering twice daily trying to get clean. I was only applying my commercial deodorant in the mornings, but this specific brand would last until the next morning. Which, you’d think would be a good thing right? Well, I started getting really itchy from it. At night before bed, it was the worst. This is really embarrassing to tell the world but when did that stop me before? I would take both my hands and scratch under my arms vigorously like a monkey. Ahhhh, some relief.

One night my husband caught me scratching my underarms in this way and said, “Oh sweetie, you are so funny and so cute trying to make me laugh by acting like a chimpanzee!”

I forced a laugh, and said, “I thought you would like that.” Only problem was, I wasn’t trying to be cute!

The next morning I did a search on the internet for “natural deodorants” I didn’t really come up with much. Then this idea popped into my head to use baking soda. I thought, well, it’s safe to brush your teeth right? There is no aluminum in baking soda, and people eat it in their food all the time. I wasn’t going to eat it, just apply it to my body. I searched the internet again, and saw many people raving about it’s use as a deodorant. I grabbed my trusty box of Arm & Hammer put a little water under each arm, put on a small amount of the baking soda under each arm it worked better than any deodorant I ever used! It’s been a few months now and my body has not built up a resistance to it. I have no odor, or annoying itching anymore.

Destination Maternity’s Expert Advice Area

If you are like myself, you have many questions about being a Mother. I just received an e-mail from Destination Maternity about their Expert Advice Panel.

“We’ve put together a team of top experts on topics new moms need to know about…..like Labor and Anesthesia, Relationships, Work-Life Balance, Infant and Child Development, and more.

Here, you can read frequently asked questions or ask a new question of your own. You’ll even get an email back when our expert answers your question!”

 

It looks like a terrific resource for Pregnant Women, Expectant Fathers, Fathers and Mothers. You can check it out HERE.

Writing a Birth Plan

Just exactly is a birth plan?

A birth plan is a written plan that states your preferences for childbirth during labor and then following the delivery.

• Do you wish to have a natural childbirth or use anesthesia and or pain medication?
• How often would you like to monitored?
• Who will cut the umbilical cord and when?
• Do you wish to breastfeed immediately?
• Do you want to keep the baby with you at all times?
• Circumcision Preferences?
• How much interference would like or not like from your doctor or nurse midwife?

There are so many things to think about. The birth of your child is one of the most important events in your life. Why not make a plan?

If you would like some help in creating your birth plan, try out the easy birth plan creator by clicking HERE.

Don’t be too concerned if things don’t go the way you had planned. A plan can always be flexible, but it’s best to be prepared the best that you can.